Three astonishing productive questions to ask yourself when facing adversity

If you are facing adversity, you can either suffer through it and wait for things to change, or you can lead by asking yourself these three astonishing questions – and then acting on the answers your mind provides.

As a coach, our players’ strength was all gained through resistance training.

You might be surprised by how helpful and inspiring difficulty can be…

Rather than shrinking in the moment from fear, let your challenge be a catalyst for you to harness into opportunity. Let yourself consider these three questions as the path to finding how you might grow and improve your strength and impact.

As a teamwork speaker, I am increasingly aware of how often it is the questions I ask at events that have more impact than the statements I make…


Here are the 3 questions to consider in your adversity:


1. What is today’s experience trying to teach me?

Napoleon Hill wrote that “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” What is the benefit of your struggle?

How can you find the unappreciated knowledge or awareness that this challenge has gifted you with that otherwise you would have remained ignorant of?


2. What does this perceived problem now make possible?

Winston Churchill wrote that “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” What opportunity does this situation provide?

How can you and your team benefit from the circumstances that others see as scary?


3. What special expertise can I share to assist others?

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote that “The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it.” What is your unique gift or skill that could be harnessed as a gift to encourage or help others?

How could your special background or abilities be used as a benefit to those around you in the challenging situation your team is experiencing?



Once we shift our focus from “what is wrong?” or “why is this happening to me?” or “who can I complain to about this?” and instead become intentional about asking more productive questions, our impact on the team and circumstances we are part of begins to change.


We become agents of positivity and hope when our questions lead us out of the dark rather than simply wallowing in it.

That is what Winning Teammate do. They do more than is expected, with enthusiasm. They are aware of and encourage others. They remember to have fun and stay positive.


So find a few minutes to thoughtfully consider the three questions above.

Write down your answers.

And then go DO SOMETHING. Take action.


Your team will thank you…


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